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Thursday, October 1, 2009

Videos are Suspended For Now

I got a notice today that someone subscribed to my Youtube videos. "Cool!" I thought at first. "Someone is interested!" So I clicked on his link to see if it was someone I knew.

If I do know this guy, I wish I didn't.

The videos he had on his favorite list and/or subscribed to were 90% porn of the strangest kind, both gay and straight. Some of the look to be of a violent nature, but I didn't care to watch any of them. Another 5% or so were teens doing nothing but being silly girls, but many of them looked like girls who could use some direction in life. Another 5% or so were concerts and the most recent videos he has added as favorites are all girls marking themselves with sharpies. (I know the math doesn't come out right, but there are only a small handful of sharpie marking videos that it wasn't worth giving it a percent.)

Why in the world he put me on his favorite list and decided to subscribe, I have no idea. There was NOTHING in my video that would give any normal man some sort of jollies and I can't really think of how a pervert would find anything worth watching. I guess this guy has a thing for sharpie markings. He definitely has a thing for extreme tattoos. That's another 15% or so. (I know...the math. I forgot about those.)

Needless to say, the guy (shoot, could be a girl, I suppose) gives me the creeps. I don't like the thought of this guy watching my videos.

The dilemma...

You know that when you put anything on the internet, anyone-anyone at all-can view it. And I knew it when I posted it.

But "everyone does it" and is it being overly cautious or extreme to never post videos and tell stories about your life publicly? We seriously could know people like this in real life and not be aware of what they do on the internet alone, so does it matter that they know us on the internet?

Is this guy just a gazer or could he be one of the very few gazers in this world who are also real-life threats?

Do you just shrug it off and say, "There are sick people in this world, but I'm going to go on with life as normal?"

Do you stop displaying things publicly and only allow people you know to read or watch?

Do you stop communicating with people who kind of make you uncomfortable but you have absolutely no reason to feel that way? What about the people you've met online that you have a good "vibe" about and enjoy their friendship? Should that make a difference?

Or do you decide that the internet truly isn't a safe place to be and you pull out of all social networks and putting on personal, day-to-day happenings in your life?

I've done the last one once before for something less creepy than this...unless those strange phone calls at work weren't a coincidence...but just figured that the odds were so, so, so slim that there would be any real-life threat. I went full-blown and started sharing my personal life online, only to be reminded of what sick things go on in this world and remembering how much it stinks that women are unfortunately the prey most of the time, or so it seems.

Does this happen on blogs that guys write? I hear about the rude, completely inappropriate, horrible, sick comments they get, but do they ever have to deal with stuff like this? Do they get comments about their wives, girlfriends, etc.? Do they worry for their wife and children and what do they do about it?

I would seriously appreciate your input on this one. Not about this blog, but posting on the internet in general. How much is too much? Where is the line between safe and paranoid? How much are you comfortable posting online and why? Do you read blogs/watch videos/visit sites with the author's personal life on display? Do you think they share too much but read it anyway?

Fellow bloggers, have YOU ever had to deal with this?

These are serious question, not "conversation starters" to generate traffic. Seriously.


  1. I'd err on the side of paranoia vs Laissez-faire. Anything you put up can be seen by ANYBODY. Writing is one thing, (and careful editing is important), but videos allow people to really see you and thereby get an image of you in their minds that just writing or even one or two normal photos don't.

    Oh yeah...and I always remind the youth at my church that they shouldn't post something on facebook or any other site that they wouldn't be willing to put on a giant billboard on our main highway. That's kind of my rule-of-thumb about what I put up.

  2. I am also a mom (of 2 little girls). I'm really careful about who I friend on facebook and generally only accept friend requests from people I actually know or remember from school. If I post any pictures or videos online, especially of my girls, I make sure it is on a secure website or the privacy settings are the strictest (like on FB). I am also careful not to put too much identifying info like town, last name, employer, etc. in my blog (which is actually now private). I just tend to err on the side of caution so I don't ever have to wonder. I am also in a profession where people tend to guard their private information (phone numbers, home address, etc.) as sacred so a lot of this probably comes from that. That's what I do, but it may not be the right answer for everyone. Don't know if that helps or not.